Friendships come and go throughout our lives and while there are some that will take a back seat, there are others that can be like a rock to you. Friendships are delicate, easily ruined and can be taken for granted by many. Like any relationship, they need to be nurtured and there are some unwritten ‘rules’ that most abide by to ensure they don’t damage their relationship with their friends. We take a look at some of the cardinal rules of friendship and the sins that shouldn’t be committed.
Some people can’t help but to gossip. It isn’t a particularly attractive trait if it is negative talk, but it can be all too easy to get caught up in it. Gossiping about a friend, especially about something personal you have been told in confidence, is usually toxic to the friendship can dissolve the trust. You are likely to tarnish your name and friends will slowly lose confidence in you.
Letting a friend down, particularly when they need you the most can cause damage to a friendship, especially if it is a reoccurring thing. It conjures feeling of disappointment and friends will begin see you as unreliable and that the friendship is a one way street which only benefits you. There are plenty of ways to let a friend down from not showing up, revealing a secret or saying you’ll do something then don’t.
This is a difficult one, often riddled with problems leading to the end of a friendship with social consequences. If it is something you are considering for whatever reason then you need to take your friends feelings into serious account and find out how they would feel about it. Talk with them. They may be happy, have moved and give you their blessing, but make sure you think what your morals are and how you’d feel in the reverse situation.
Everyone gets jealous from time to time, and it can be due to all sorts of things, but the green eyed monster can be a destructive characteristic to have and will ruin friendship if it isn’t kept in check. It is unhealthy and can lead to animosity and even hate. You need to be happy with who you are and what you have in order to stop being jealous of others.
As humans we tend to judge people, whether it is first impressions, what someone wears or on their behaviour. Try to avoid judging your friends and respect their choices whether it is something they, wear or even their other half. You can offer your advice when asked for it, but judgment is a form of criticism and can drive your friends away. Be careful in agreeing to others judgments also.
Always remember the value that good friends bring to your life and when things are tough they can be invaluable. They provide comfort; support, encouragement and good times and many of us are guilty of not putting enough time in to nurture them.
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